Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right.

Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right. As a kid growing up, if I heard this phrase once I heard it a thousand times. I remember my mother saying it more often than perhaps I should admit and I always thought it sounded like a bunch a mumbo jumbo. A thought that confused me and seemed above my adolescent pay grade. And because I didn’t really get it, I chose to ignore the concept for the most part. I went about my business continuing to proclaim things as the need arose like “he hit me first” or “so and so did...
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Your Resume

Your resume. Down here in the desert the school year wraps up insanely early. Likely because it is hotter than Hades and everyone is trying to get out of the insufferable heat and find an alternative venue for the summer months. But as the school year came to a close, it marked a significant weigh point in our lives. Our oldest daughter graduated from eighth grade and this incredible milestone ushered in an immense amount of pride and also an important pause and wonderful reflection on what has been my life’s work thus far. If I might indulge myself for...
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True Grit

True Grit I mentioned in the last post something I have thought a great deal about and not just lately. It has been a topic, a question, that I have wondered on many a time. And my wondering ways have led me to nostalgically inquire, “Where has our “grittiness” gone?” I have been watching with worry and a growing alarm what seems to be a lack of grit, determination and resolve that have become the concerning norm. Just last week our oldest daughter was interviewing her grandma Mimi. Asking her questions and listening to her childhood remembrances of WWII. The...
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Good help is SO hard to find!

It’s cliché but incredibly true nonetheless. Contrary to what we would all believe or wish to be true, great people are rare and often illusive beings. Akin to enchanted creatures of folklore and fairytales. We have wished for their existence but reluctantly discovered that they only exist in the realm of alluring legend and fantastical imagination. They are stubbornly hiding somewhere undiscovered as we wrestle with seemingly endless frustration, hiring’s, firings, and one disappointment after another. Either that or we just numbly settle for the notion that a half-assed effort is good enough and we stop expecting and demanding the...
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Thanks for nothing!

Thanks for nothing!   For much as I am loathe to admit it, we all seem to fall into that state of mind so easily these days.  Where notions of want, scarcity and a focus on everything we lack over all that we love seem to hold unreasonable sway over our hearts and minds.  It’s almost as though modern society with all of its relentless suggestions toward everything we need and simply MUST have, locks us in a covetous vice grip that only the most deeply soulful and self-aware people manage to avoid or escape.  It is so dreadfully easy...
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Ready or not, here it comes.....!

I’m honestly not sure when Halloween became such a big damn deal. Now this isn’t a miserly comment, but rather a truly curious one. When I was a kid we bought those Halloween costumes that came in a simple b...ox. Character of choice with cheap plastic mask included. In the here and now, people dress their dogs in more elaborate costumes than we wore and I’m not even kinda kidding. These days it would seem that most parents contact the American Actors Guild and hire a wardrobe consultant in order to properly attire their offspring. And proper Halloween attire seems...
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Where have all the good men gone?

Where have all the good men gone? Now lest you think I am taking a bizarre foray into some commentary on the state of dating, match making and the like, allow m...e to assure you that I am leaving such things to the impressive panel of experts on reality TV. This query is around my occasionally desperate pursuit of true, noble, and effective leaders which seem to be as rare and illusive as black eyed tree frogs. (Yes, I had to look up the world’s most endangered species.) In truth, my interest is a universal one that applies to both...
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Latest Hot Concern 8/26/13

Envy vs. Encouragement The Battle Royale. I think that at times even the best among us struggle with this tug of war. A tug of war that insists that we rise above our occasionally petty instincts to want what others have. Their life, th...eir means, their adventures, their mindset, their overwhelming number of Facebook friends. So much to need, and so little time. It is so easy to wander onto the green, green grass of vicariously living someone else’s life or to wantingly eye their situation or circumstances. But as with so many things in life this is always a...
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Latest Hot Concern 12/7/12

  Q:           How do you handle the Christmas chaos?  Family, friends, and all around busyness without going a little bit crazy? A:            the honest answer is that I do go a little bit crazy.  As we roll the clock to each New Year I continually vow to do the Holidays better next year.  To be more organized.  To get things done earlier.  To be strategic and purposeful about what we are doing so that I can actually enjoy the splendor of the Season and all that it offers and means.  And every year I fail epically.  I find myself stressed...
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Latest Hot Concern 11/26/12

 Q:           My wife and I have extended family coming over for the Thanksgiving Holiday.  Most of them I get along with just fine, but not all of them.  Any thoughts on how to best manage the day? A:            First and foremost my hat is off to you and your wife that in spite of some family unease you are opening your home and celebrating the Holiday together.  If they all don’t give you credit for your willingness, make sure you both toast each other and give yourself acknowledgment for playing equal pars Holiday Host and Family referee perhaps.  I think...
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